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Henrietta Lacks – A question answered

I’m not sure if you’re like me; however, I’ve taken some things to God in prayer and, although I’m at perfect peace after, I leave with the same question marks that I brought.   You know, the kind of things that life throws your way causing you send a simple Why? into the clouds.

I’ve already accepted the fact that something’s just are so I’m not tormented about not fully understanding the “why” behind every life event.   As a matter a fact, many times, I’ve forgotten that I still have what I’d consider “unanswered” questions until an answer is sent and… immediately, I know where it goes.

Recently, I overheard a brief story about Henrietta Lacks.  The results of her existence caused me to immediately thank God for the answer to a question I can now put away. Read more…

Thank God for 2nd Chances

My biggest regret about having my daughter at 18 has been all the special moments I missed. I was so consumed with mastering the breadwinner part, I allowed  my mom to handle the mothering part.  With everything and nothing being a priority, I always felt rushed as I ran from a company function to a school event. Read more…

New Year’s Resolutions – Simplified

At the stroke of midnight January 1st, I am prepared to put into place my stealth like, meticulously thought out, scientifically proven plan to make  the next 12 months the best ever.  Each step in my plan is geared towards my being bigger (but thinner), badder (in a good way) and better (not conceited) than ever before.  That’s right I’ve got it all figured out. Read more…

Single Moms – Are you independent to a fault?

Trust me, I get it.  You know how to buy a car, a house and, while working on your degree, you help the kids with their homework and hold down a full-time job.  You know when to get your oil changed, you can fix a toilet and you can take out the trash.  Bugs don’t terrify you as much as they once did (as a result of taking out the trash – yuck!), you now know what HTML stands for and if the cost of cheer camp registration means that you can’t buy anything for yourself this pay period, so be it. Read more…

Dating, Single Moms and Disciplining the Kids

Growing up in a two parent household, I recall trying to decide which parent I should ask for permission to go skating with my best friend.  Based on the number of nods received in similar situations, often times I would ask my mom.  I would always be shocked when, 1 out of 10 times, she’d say “Ask your dad”.  Well, she may as well have said “No” because there was no leaving the house after dark when dealing with my dad . Read more…

Why single moms should tweet

Having just about 20 years in information technology, one might assume that I would be current on ANYTHING remotely geeky but I’m not.  I consistently pick the wrong gadgets with the wrong features and, with all of my motivational speakers trapped on cassette tapes, my transition to CD players has been a slow one (we won’t even entertain MP3 players – ).  In areas where electronics are concerned, I don’t feel comfortable making a purchasing decision so… I always need help. Read more…

Child Support Briefly Explained

I have seen where the purpose of child support appears to be misunderstood.  Recently, I’ve even heard of a young mother that didn’t feel that she should still pursue child support since the father chooses to no longer be in the the child’s life.  Nonesense.

Child support is just that, support for your child.  As a custodial parent (mother or a father), it is your responsibility to ensure that your child’s needs are supplied.  There is nothing wrong or unfair about accepting or pursuing child support from the other parent. Read more…

Taking care of yourself = A better mood

Often times, I find that I don’t think about properly taking care of myself until I start feeling bad physically and mentally.  As a mom with multiple things on my list of things to do, it’s very easy to end up at bottom of the list.  Recently, I’ve beat myself up because I know what to do – I just have stints of laziness.  I’ve decided to get the things “I KNOW” work out of my head and written down.  Hopefully, you can find a few tips that you can implement. Read more…

Just accident prone, I guess

During my twenties, I often found myself in an accident of some sort.  Aside from running through life seemingly without brakes, my driving history reflected the same.  As with most accidents in my life, thankfully, I was more of an inconvenience to those around me.  No one was injured during my Mr. Magoo moments.

A brief commercial intermission for those of you with a blank stare at the mention of Mr. Magoo… Read more…

Let’s cut each other some slack

If you are a single mother, my guess is that you are coming to the conclusion that nothing’s perfect.  There are no perfect men or women and, you guessed it, your child’s father falls into one of those categories – smile. You can fuss, fight and threaten but it doesn’t do much in the way of making people – adults with the same rights you have – do what you want them to do. As a parent, you will soon be able to see things from your parent’s eyes.  All of the stupid things you felt your dad did and said, you may actually find yourself doing and saying to some degree.  Your mom, no matter how curt, may find herself looking back at you in the mirror.  “I’ll never be like my parents!”, you say?  Read more…