Dating, Single Moms and Disciplining the Kids
Growing up in a two parent household, I recall trying to decide which parent I should ask for permission to go skating with my best friend. Based on the number of nods received in similar situations, often times I would ask my mom. I would always be shocked when, 1 out of 10 times, she’d say “Ask your dad”. Well, she may as well have said “No” because there was no leaving the house after dark when dealing with my dad 
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As single mothers, we don’t have anyone to regularly assist us with decisions concerning the kids. We make decisions on our own. So, when a man that we have full intentions on sharing our lives with disciplines our kids, it stings a little and we’re on the defense. It’s as if he is saying that every decision we made was wrong when, in fact, that’s not what he is saying at all. On the other hand, it can be easily viewed, from a man’s perspective, that the defensiveness is a sign that we do not want or need assistance raising our kids when, in fact, that’s not what we’re saying at all.
As Shay Your Date Diva mentions in her video, it is very important for us to sit down with our mate and agree on how we will handle discipline in our household. This means, in order to make the transition easier for everyone, we share in the responsibility of disciplining the kids and avoid discipline related disagreements in the presence of the kids.
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Disciplining kids is tough as is – probably most difficult doing it alone
Hi, Fern -
Yes, you are correct it’s hard no matter what side of the fence you’re on. Depending on the age of the kids when mom brings in the potential husband, another level of difficulty can be introduced.
Disciplining your kids is hard if you’re single and even if you’re married. I was raised by a single Mother and i think she did a GREAT job in raising my sister and i, so i know disciplining your kids can be done.
Hi,
You get no argument from me, it can absolutely be done.
Thanks for commenting.
Discipline is a tough topic. Often, it’s a topic that spouses don’t agree on and have to do a lot of talking to reach compromises they’re both happy with.
Hi, Audrey –
You’re right, there is normally a disagreement. I think it’s easier; however, if we keep in mind what’s in the best interest of the kids and try to leave our egos out of it. It’s very hard.