Comments on: Child Support Briefly Explained http://www.resourceful-mom.com/2009/12/04/child-support-briefly-explained/ A blog about life, car buying, education & home buying for single moms Sun, 27 Jun 2010 02:04:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sabrina http://www.resourceful-mom.com/2009/12/04/child-support-briefly-explained/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Sabrina Wed, 09 Dec 2009 12:46:33 +0000 http://www.resourceful-mom.com/?p=925#comment-36 Hi, Keisha - You made some very valid points. Obtaining child support can be more trouble than it's worth. Our having to implement damage control as a result of the other parents lack of involvement with the kids is another issues. No matter how much we try; however, we cannot change another individual. So to the best of your ability, control the things you can. Your kids are in the same age bracket as mine so I would suggest that you continue to explain that the actions of the other parent has nothing to do with them, reiterate that we cannot change others and help them understand that we love our family members simply because they are our family members - not because they do everything correctly. It is a headache? Yes. But you're the only rock they have, right now so you have to display rock characteristics. Take care. Thanks for stopping by and sharing. Sabrina Hi, Keisha – You made some very valid points. Obtaining child support can be more trouble than it’s worth. Our having to implement damage control as a result of the other parents lack of involvement with the kids is another issues. No matter how much we try; however, we cannot change another individual. So to the best of your ability, control the things you can. Your kids are in the same age bracket as mine so I would suggest that you continue to explain that the actions of the other parent has nothing to do with them, reiterate that we cannot change others and help them understand that we love our family members simply because they are our family members – not because they do everything correctly. It is a headache? Yes. But you’re the only rock they have, right now so you have to display rock characteristics. Take care.

Thanks for stopping by and sharing.

Sabrina

]]> By: Keisha Dunlap http://www.resourceful-mom.com/2009/12/04/child-support-briefly-explained/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Keisha Dunlap Wed, 09 Dec 2009 01:45:08 +0000 http://www.resourceful-mom.com/?p=925#comment-35 I agree that the custodial parent should persue child support for the kids. However the other parent knows his or her responseibillty. I have three kids there father has barely supported his kids and I mean barely. My kids are now 16,18, and 20. I have gone to court. I spent more time in court than I did at work. I hear that it is the custodial parents fault if you do not persue the support. I am hurting my children. NO IT IS THE OTHER PARENTS FAULT FOR NOT STEPPING UP. They now they have kids. When there kids are older and choose not to have a relationship with the parent who will be hurt then? I also believe support is more than money. It is also spending time, teaching your kids about life, helping them to become productive adults, money can not do that. My ex does not pay support or spend time with his kids. Does it bother me yes. Does it bother the kids yes. But it is not the kids fault or mines it is his. He needs to accept responsibillty for his actions and his actions alone. I agree that the custodial parent should persue child support for the kids. However the other parent knows his or her responseibillty. I have three kids there father has barely supported his kids and I mean barely. My kids are now 16,18, and 20. I have gone to court. I spent more time in court than I did at work. I hear that it is the custodial parents fault if you do not persue the support. I am hurting my children. NO IT IS THE OTHER PARENTS FAULT FOR NOT STEPPING UP. They now they have kids. When there kids are older and choose not to have a relationship with the parent who will be hurt then? I also believe support is more than money. It is also spending time, teaching your kids about life, helping them to become productive adults, money can not do that. My ex does not pay support or spend time with his kids. Does it bother me yes. Does it bother the kids yes. But it is not the kids fault or mines it is his. He needs to accept responsibillty for his actions and his actions alone.

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