Resourceful-Mom

New to the workforce

Starting in the workforce in my early 20’s meant that I didn’t have many people, in my circle, to give me advice on office etiquette.  Aside from not being able to afford work clothes, other than the basic black interview suit, I didn’t think work attire was very flattering.  So, I resorted to what I knew, which wasn’t much.

At this point in my life, when I see young ladies wearing work attire that would barely fit what would qualify as business casual, I have to smile.  I smile not because I’m amused but because I remember being there as it wasn’t that long ago.  I recall being probably one of the most dependable, quality and production conscious employees always aiming for a better raise and the next promotion but always falling short.  I remember watching others that were being groomed for a next position, seemingly before they were out of training for the entry level job.  And, more than anything, I remember wondering what did management see in others that they did not see in me.

In passing one day, Ms. Murray, an ex-military manager, abruptly instructed me to never again come into the office with a skirt that was shorter than fingertip length. This coaching took place in the presence of one of her peers and one of mine; however, I wasn’t  embarrassed.  It was the information I needed.  Of course, this added about 30 minutes to my mornings as my skirts only passed the “fingertip” test without heels on.

Her instructions caused me to question all of my choices and, like they say, the rest is history.  I no longer saw the need for the long nails with interesting colors, even though I could type with them.  I wore hairstyles that were professional for work but versatile for after hours.  I lost interest in wearing a ring on EVERY finger and eventually learned to only share my after work fun with those that had my best interest at heart.

Growing pains affect not only the person growing but it also affects those that get to watch the growth.  If you are the one that wants more out of life, be approachable and willing to make whatever improvements necessary to obtain what you want out of life.  If you are the one that has a lot to give to others, give it because without you, there will be no success stories.